Even though I can’t see very clearly, my eyes directly recognized ‘The Roar of the Tiger Mom’ article on our J-Lab board. When I first read the title, I immediately understood that this was a subject on learning and teaching, which is a very debated issue, most crucial for those of us who are still in the winding wheel of education.
‘Amy Chua, Yale law professor and self-described “tiger mother,” forced her 7-year-old daughter Lulu to practice for hours on end — right through dinner into the night, with no breaks for water or even the bathroom, until at last Lulu learned to play the piece’ says The New York Times. I believe that the nick name ‘Tiger Mother’ is befitting more than the sweet connotation of ‘Amy’. She is a determined and authoritative parent who opts for tough techniques to raise her children.
In some ways I agree with her. For example, my worst subject is math. I don’t understand anything and I always get failing marks. This is a big obstacle for me. My grade point average becomes extremely bad only because of mathematics. I enjoy all the other subjects and I can get good grades from them all. I simply cannot improve my math. I am stuck like crazy glue, warming through my flesh and hardening every passing second. This year, however, I decided I will push myself through a torturous self-discipline and solve thousands of math problems to improve. I did ! Now, I can do my own homework without any help.
Hold on… I’d like to indicate something however. No one said anything to me about my math problem. This was my independent and willing decision to study more. If someone had urged me to work harder, I probably wouldn’t have. This means that I don’t like or approve the ‘’tiger mother’’ approach. Amy Chua has a point, which is different than the other teaching techniques – push comes to shove one can change. However, I truly believe that we need to want something to achieve a good result. I understand Amy Chua’s technique but she seems like a dictator at home. If she was to tell the importance of learning and the possibility of improving one’s worst subjects, maybe her children would understand the essence of willing to shape their own future and they can study with their own enthusiasm.
According to Chua’s point, she believes that Western parents are too patient and gentle. Chinese parents show the way of success with punishment. She indicates the success rates at schools between America and China. China is more successful than America in mathematics, natural sciences and literature. Chinese students are working harder than American students. The main reason is their parents. They are obliged to work hard, it is mandatory for them. They are forced to solve thousands of math problems in a day or read several books in a week. This is the reason why Chinese students are successful. All the same, I don’t believe they are happy. They aren’t working with their own enthusiasm. They only do what they are told to do and they only walk on the path their parents show them.
Some people in United States find Amy Chua interesting and different. Those who are closer to the culture, notwithstanding, criticize her. For example, a woman, who is Chinese but lives in United States, said that she is having therapy because of parents like Amy Chua. I believe Yale’s law professor knows her limits when she is approaching her students at the university and not her own children. I cannot imagine the law students in a top American University being pushed around like she treats her own children. I am not worried about these law students. I do, nevertheless, pity her children, even though I do know they will become very successful. The question is at what expense?